The Power of Women
Posted on December 5, 2017
[Amazing amazing art by Libby Vander Ploeg! Her most popular GIF is the one where women were giving each other a boost.]
I claim the term introvert a lot. And for a long time, I have to personally experience situations to realize that it’s not a blanket term for shy or antisocial. I know I like to get to know more people but I could only do so in very controlled situations. It took me a long time be at peace with this; the fact that my social stamina is way below the average. Initially, my solution was to close off altogether to avoid disappointment in myself and other people. Ever since I moved to Singapore, I do have to remind myself to stay open to the possibility of making new friends – even it scares the living hell out of me.
So when my yoga buddy Tarn asked me to go to her destination wedding, I was excited but at the same time scared to be set in a place where my officemates and I would be in one place. I mean, I could only drag on that obscure technical issue that happened to everyone as a common topic for so long. Don’t get me wrong, I respect and idolize these women on a daily basis. I was just truly unprepared to for a 100% social event, I expected to run out of things to say in the first 10 minutes.
Yet. I had one of the best weekends I’ve had in the company of women (after a long time.) Sure, I was awkward and easily drained. I think I daydreamed in between conversations at the dining table and mumbled and stuttered quite a bit. But I never felt any less for it that weekend.
Looking back, I couldn’t help but be grateful for the chance to spend time with these smart and amazing women. There were mini brainstorms for businesses, beauty product sharing, and laughter – a lot of laughter. I was fortunately surrounded by women who are and let be.
How can I not feel energized after that?
I had a greater appreciation of a woman’s nature. Specifically on us being so multifaceted. We’re known to multi-task. And while that might pop an imaged of an 8-armed shiksa goddess holding a variety of domestic and tech products, I don’t think multi-tasking is just limited to that.
For years I have always said me being curious about so many topics is a handicap. Jack of all trades, master of none. And I saw these women around me just owning that curiosity in their own ways. Some are at Level 3 and others at Level 100. It took me a weekend of my most feared social setting to get me to embrace my being a woman and just be contented to be standing at whichever level I’m at.